My animals: Tough one!!! The Guineas have been re-homed to a wonderful young lady. She takes great care of them and sends me pictures once in a while. Funny thing is that I know her grandfather and have him on FB. She and her mom added me and I can keep up with what the Guinea boys are doing through there. My H, whose Guineas they were in the first place does not even ask about them. Kinda sad! My dog, I have had her for almost 11 years, since she was 8 weeks old. I want to keep her with me, but am accepting the fact that she might be better off living at my moms instead of an apartment with me. My dogs sister lived there until Christmas when she passed away. She has spent quite a bit of time having sleep-overs at Grandmas house. My mom also thinks it would be a good idea. My oldest cat has to come with me. She is a loner and very attached to me as I am attached to her. My problem kitty belongs to my son. He brought home the cat 6 years ago, but didn't take him with him when he left the house 2 years ago. I did make my son pay for all his vet bills throughout the years. My son and I are at odds right now, because I would not let him, his GF and her son flop at my house anymore. My son couch surfs between his GF's house, his buddy's and my moms house. He will not take responsibility for his cat, but my mom has agreed to take him. She has 13 acres and he would have the life of a pampered indoor/ outdoor cat. That leaves 3 more cats. One is my momma cat that a friend of my sons left behind when he lived at my house and then moved without her. My daughter has bonded with her and she will take care of her. That leaves my two boys. I still call them kittens, even tough hey are almost 5 years old and huge. They are absolute sweethearts and both very loving and clean. I have had them since the day they were born. I don't want to part with them. I have thought about re-homing them with a healthy incentive to whomever takes them and a clause that they have to give updates and give them back to me if they can't keep them. Still not sure about what to do there.
I believe you should do what is best for the animals concerned whilst freeing yourself as much as possible.
My stuff: I couldn't care less about my furniture or belongings. I just want to take the basics. Couch, coffee table, beds, a dresser each, the TV's (2), the computers. I have my collection of lady bugs in 2 boxes already. My D and I have pared down our clothes to maybe a quarter of what we had before. We are trying to sell as much as we can (clothes and furniture) and are giving away/donating/trashing what we can't.
I am really liking this. One of the big contentions between myself and WH was the amount of 'stuff' WH had, in cupboards, on shelves, in drawers etc. including clothes. WH had 140 pairs of men's underpants, all the same type. WTF? And 230 pairs of socks. Many of them old and threadbare. As WH stuff grew so the space for me diminished and I felt diminished. The more I cleared the more WH stored. I am not short on stuff either but I don't keep broken items or have threadbare socks or worn out shoes. In fact I have a couple of funny stories about disposal of old items, and the look of surprise on the recyclers face when I unloaded. He actually asked me if I cleared houses for a living!
I am wondering if this might be a factor for your WAH, is there room for me? Again I may be projecting for him. If you like my position was more like your WAH position on stuff. Do you think you might be a hoarder, but in this case hoarding others burdens and stuff more than your own? If so is this compulsive, could it emerge again? Is there strategies and management you can do to stop it if that is the case? Another question for IC I think.
My vehicles: One car I will keep. One car goes back at the end of October to the lease company. The motorcycle I am selling in the next few weeks. As much as I would like to keep it, I need the money and I don't want to worry about moving it in the fall when I move. I can always buy another one next spring.
Stay lean and mean! It's your livihood (vehicle refurb) too, so you could get great joy in this choice next spring if you choose.
My future: I'm still trying to figure out what it is that I want to do for the rest of my working career. I try not to dwell on it too much. I have asked the universe to guide me. I am leaning towards something to do with animals. I have always said that if I won the lottery I would open an animal sanctuary. I will do research and see what kind of courses are available in animal care.
It is going to be exciting to see this unfold. You are clearly a talented lady. I will enjoy discussing this.
My H: He is no longer my burden. He has to take care of himself.
I think so.
Ok, now this a long post. I have to wrap it up since I promised my brother I would check in on his dogs while he is at work.
I feel this illustrates my earlier point!
[color:#CC33CC][/color] Ok V, Now to the last few paragraphs of your post.
My animals, I will always try to do what is best for them, no matter what. There are a few options I have and I will continue to consider all of them.
My stuff. I will take as little as possible with me. That should make things fairly easy to move around. Don't really care much about material possessions anymore. I even stopped shopping for anything but necessities. I see now clearing out so much that "things" really don't make me happy.
My vehicles: I really only need my car. The motorcycle is a want and I will cross that bridge next year.
My husband: He is moving next week. He has accepted a job offer and will be gone. I have no intention in helping him with anything. Right now I'm a bit angry because everything is moving so fast. Working hard on letting it go. If he wants to stay in touch he will have to do that. I'm going to continue working on my house and getting a life without him. We do have one MC session scheduled tomorrow, after that I think that will stop completely.
One little side note. My brother helped me raise my children when I was a single mother working shift work. I help him when I can. My mom lives with him and usually looks after the dogs. She is overseas right now looking after my niece. When she comes back it really won't be an issue anymore. He also looks after my animals when I'm away.
So there you have it V. Really not much about my H in there. Really more about me getting my life together. I still love him, just really don't know if I ever want to live with him again. He is a downer that dragged me down with him. If and only if he grows up, becomes self sufficient and happier with himself could I ever entertain the notion of having a M with him again. As it stands right now we don't have a M. We "date" and I don't think that is enough for me. [i][/i]
Di-mond in the rough M-45 H-38 My children S-25 D-23 T 5 M 4 H left April Fools Day 2015
