Separated...and working on it

[Vanilla]

Indeed they are, but are they really your burdens? Or are they those you have taken on? Can we ask why Diana chooses to take others burdens? Is she afraid others will say "Diana is very mean, she won't take on my burden?" Or it because Diana needs those burdens to feel wanted and loved?

Oh yes, I did need those burdens to feel loved and wanted. I lived my life thinking that my happiness hinged on what I could do and provide for others. I'm not completely over that mind set, but again feel like I'm moving in the right direction. I could probably just keep everything the way it is (house, children, animals) minus the H, but it wouldn't make me happy. Selling this house and finding a new career are purely selfish acts for me, but that is exactly what I need to do. Everyone else will just have to learn to deal with it.
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Diana I like this very much but I do not see following your own path as selfish quite the reverse. There is a difference between being self centred and selfish. I think you may be confusing the two. Looking after you (like the farm machinery) isn't selfish, its looking after what ultimately is able to be independent and strong. Your happiness is your responsibility. You are entering a phase of great personal change because you want to do so. That is excellent.

V