I agree completely Job-I will talk to him face to face. This way I can take his pulse,too. Plus I have some questions that need answering without him having to much time to think about his responses.

And I do hear you on the potential that a letter might come back to bite me.

Any other advice is much appreciated.

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced