Thanks for your suggestion about Retrouvaille, Nikatnight made the same suggestion a while back. Unfortunately they do not have a branch in the UK - but there is one in the Republic of Ireland which is an cheap and quick plane ride away so I guess we could do it.
I am also intrigued by the Light his/her Fire tapes. That's what we could do with around here a little passion!
I have noticed that when my son (4.5) isn't 100% happy/intrigued by something then he is miserable. I guess he gets that from his Dad. Looking at the way H can be when the tiniest thing doesn't go his way it is really an overreaction. I think over the years I have reacted to his overreactions thinking that there was something serious going on when really he just overreacts to the negative in his life. I am learning to detach and let him get on with being that way. Not feel like it is my fault or that I can fix it for him. I think he is unaware of it himself and maybe felt like I was on his case all the time because when small things went wrong I would be there trying to soothe/fix when it really wasn't necessary. He is giving out these really strong signals of misery but maybe that is just his way of discharging the negative and there is nothing for me to do. Humour can help my son out of his negative moods, but I have tried that with H and he just gets affronted thinking I am trivialising a serious situation or teasing him. Maybe I need to try the same sort of humor on H that I do on S (i.e. slapstick or silly stuff) instead of verbal quippery. Ho Hum thank God for DD she can see the funny side of everything!
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
