I am thinking if things are still going poorly when we get back from our vacation, So you are setting yourself up for expectations here Hope ... DO NOT have Expectations ... just enjoy the vaca regardless of what H does .... GET OUT OF HIS HEAD I will tell H that I am needing to go to the town we moved from (where my family is) & do xyz for a few days. I think it would be helpful for us to have some space from each other... especially if things have not improved while we are on vacation. For me, it will be helpful to be around family & enjoy myself a bit rather than always thinking about what H is doing or thinking. For H it might be helpful to get some distance from his resentments he feels towards me by not seeing me everyday. If you are doing this to get a reaction out of you rH ... you are going to blow this thing up in your own lap ... worry about YOU ... if you need to get away and recharge .. go do that ... REGARDLESS of what your H says/ does
Is this generally a good idea to get away? I think the only real danger would be in him doing something w/ the OW... but she is also married so I think it would not be so easy for her to get away. I guess they could come to our house during the day... hmmmm....
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Again ... he will do what he wants when he wants ... he already proved that right? You leaving or staying is not going to change what he wants to do .. you have to stop thinking you and your actions control him. The A and OW ... Not your circus .. not your monkey.
