Still Struggling with a plan!

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First thread-
Huge Backslide After Affair Recovery

Infidelity section thread-
Heading Toward Affair- What to Do?

Time for a new thread. Still not consistent with any set plan.

Working on my 180 which is to not to confront H when my anxiety sets in & I am in a panic (convinced I know something that usually I do not know for certain).

I am GAL... I had 2 evening events last week. I have 1-2 evening events this week.

Last week H wanted to "fix" it because what we were doing was leading us to no where good. He made several changes to transparency & started wearing his ring again.

Then Friday I freaked out & approached him in an accusatory way (hence figuring out what my 180 needed to be!) & he has shut down. We are still friendly but he has withdrawn any affection that we had started to build back up after his "fix" it email.

We have a vacation starting on Saturday & lasting for 16 days. It will be interesting to see how that goes. My individual counselor thinks that it will be a good opportunity for us to build back some good into the relationship.

Started reading "His Needs, Her Needs" today. I am intrigued. I think it could be helpful for us. Those that have read it, when did you & how did you see if your spouse would read it?