So I've been pondering and the general consensus is that I didn't handle things well on Sunday (that and I know I got it wrong when I did some things for D4 but told W afterwards rather than before)

To that end I was thinking of sending the following text message:

Hi. I was reflecting on the handover on Sunday. For various reasons it affected me more than usual and so I recognise I wasn't as positive as I would typically like to be. I just wanted to reassure you that I do and will always do my best to make sure the kids know we both love them very much.

Now my mind is a little bit cloudy about stuff at the moment (including a request to swap childcare so XW and OM1 can have a long weekend away.) So I'm not sure whether I should say anything BUT this us about right thing to do rather than any effect - I said in a previous post that if it was anyone else I would definitely smooth it out.

I thought post for advice and to stall while I think more.

Thanks in advance.


Both mid 30s, 2 young kids
BD 7sep14
XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1
D paperwork in progress