Yesterday after vacation H initiated casual texting conversation. At end told me he was writing me a letter.
In the AM H gives me a letter stating that he really enjoyed being with me this weekend. Says he heard me apologize for past wrongs/not making him and M a priority. Says he has always wanted to keep our family together. Says he wants to stay together but needs various things from me. These are mostly past issues that he has communicated. Some are small things. Primary need is for our M to come first, for me to put him at the top of the heap and for us to be a united front to kids. He wants a wife again.
H asked for me to communicate back ASAP either via letter or another method what I need from him to make things work on my end.
I know many of the things I need from him. Many of these are emotional needs and communicative needs.
But I need help discussing the lead up to BD and all the craziness that followed BD.
I need help discussing my lack of trust in him given erratic running around that occurred, secretive cell guarding, potential EA, PA, etc. To re-build I need that trust re-built.
I also am so wary at the fast turnaround. I worry it is a mask phase.
Help!
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
