Yes, I realized that being relaxed and non judgemental and really listening is so important. I am placing NO PRESSURE on her at all. She is 100% free to do what she wants.
I have finally realized that I have put a LOT of pressure on her in a variety of ways, so that has stopped. I have stopped giving events meaning, they are just events and events are neither good nor bad. I have had to learn to stop reacting to events. I think another way to say this is have no expectations.
