Separated...and working on it

[Di-mond]

So, the house is being cleaned out of everyone's stuff. I'm being pretty ruthless. If it has been in my basement for years and they have not bothered to get their stuff it is going in the trash.

I am truly loving this, take care that valuables are secured, otherwise go girl.


I will get his house fixed up and ready to sell. I have some equity that will help me start a new life.

[color:#6600CC]Even better, keep up the momentum. Diana I want for you that you do not restart the cycle in a new place and at a new time. I am going to ask you a tough question " do you think that by hanging on to other people's stuff and taking on their burdens that you are trying to hang on to them? Do you sense that if you don't you may loose them, their affection or love? Would you feel abandoned.?

As you declutter and clear are you sensing that you are resisting, slowing down, rationalising? I say this because recently I cleared my WH and his hoard from my home and by doing so I felt initially abandoned and then as I recognised it, worked through my fear, exhilarated. I even sped up the process because I wanted it finished, I hired a storage unit and put his stuff in it. I think this is what I recognised in your story, the burden of 'stuff' and nonsense.

V,

All the house stuff was mainly logistics. I was out of the house 50-60 hours a week working a physically demanding job. When I was younger I could go home and do more work every night and keep the house somewhat clutter free. Over the last 5-10 years my energy became less and less, coupled with my illness and chronic fatigue and probably depression I just physically couldn't clean out the basement. Whatever little time I had at home I could barely move. I have been on sick leave since March. This is the most time I have had off from work in over 20 years. I still struggle physically to do he clearing, but do manage to do something every day. Yes it is freeing seeing all the clutter go away. Fend Shui at its best. Lol
I do have to admit that I have hoarding tendencies. Come by them naturally, as my mom keeps everything. I am getting so much better letting things go. They are only things.

I will have to get back to he rest of the replies later. Need to go get some food for the animals.