It is so GREAT to see you back. I have wondered many times how you were doing!!!
Dr. Phil has said: "The quality of a relationship is equal to the quality of your friendship and both of your needs being met."
Could you work on the above. Your need for communication is not being met. I find that accepting who my H is has really helped me. There are many qualities I would change in H if I could but the fact that I now accept him is HUGE.
I do think in time your love for your H will grow. Make sure you don't hold anything in and build up resentments.
You are doing a great job detatching so I can see how you have grown. When we put less importance on the perfect M and more importance on doing God's will and being a blessing to others, I think that is what leads to true happiness.