Every situation is unique and honestly, stats really don't apply because your sitch will have it's own elements. What if I said "20% come back?" Will that be palatable if you are in the 80%? I don't say that to be harsh-just truthful. I feel horrible for people when they come here and I cringe when I hear newbies say they are going to "wait out the affair." Life doesn't wait. Time continues to pass. The affair will last as long as it lasts. May be 3 month, 3 years, 13 years or 25 years. I know people who were in active affairs who are now married to each other and have been for 10 plus years. I know people who got divorced and remarried. However, you are only going around on this planet in this format one time, so I caution you to spend too much time "waiting."
Live your life. Enjoy your kids. Work on you. Your DS is very young. Regardless of what happens, you need to take care of you and your child. In regards to the question of "were the children part of the reason for return?" I will say that honestly, kids are probably a reason for the departure of some. Do the WSs love their kids? Of course they do. However, some associate the kids with the life they "hated". And when some "come back" that is their crap sandwich to deal with regarding the kids. You can never fix his R with his kids nor should you try. Don't say anything bad about him. Love your kids. They need it:)
And whether you asked them to leave or they left on their own, well, they left. That's that. You didn't. You will drive yourself crazy trying to figure out "why?" or "how?" this will play out.
Everything has a way of working out as it should. Hang in there! It gets much, much better!
Last edited by Georgiabelle; 07/28/1502:15 PM.
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
