ugh. We had a really really good week. I keep thinking, we really need to talk about things in the open but we both don't want the "good feelings" to go away. So yesterday... It was a long day at work for me, I came home & he had things taken care of (which is kinda rare, though not always). I was thankful, so I went over to him and since he was sitting down, I kissed him on the forehead and said thanks for taking care of stuff around the house. Later, he approached me about feeling like that was condescending - like I'm "Ward Cleaver" coming home from work and kissing the wifey (him). Its typical for us... he's so sensitive about stuff and I just don't get it. I tried to listen and validate but also got a bit irritated and said we don't want to talk about things that are so difficult to talk about but we need to....
Which launched into the infidelity stuff. He only wants to talk about it on his terms and he says I only want to talk about it on my terms. My only terms are his honesty. He insists on knowing what I know and *how*... which I'm not going to play into that. He can use that for all kinds of manipulation. So I don't know how to get past this. What now??
Me: 42, H: 38 Married: 12 years (second M for me) 14D, 9D 2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC
At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?
