I might call today but can't do it right now when she is home.
I've been doing very well with this detached stuff and basically a lot of Sandi's rules, being confident, wearing cologne...etc not contacting first, not pushing...etc
Last night she got mad because I had scheduled for carpet cleaners to come today and she was upset because why am I doing all this stuff now...etc and stormed upstairs. Later on I explained to her I wrote a list of thigns to do for the house and as I'm just trying to get things done 1 or 2 per pay period. (I should have just ignored her all the rest of the night but I was foolish and let her draw me in). So at this point she goes into full attack mode accusing me of getting our sons arm broken on purpose as a way of keeping her there (In know in my mind that his is her guilt talking that she was with the OM instead of here with our son) I told her I would never hurt our son like that and I hope she knows that. So then she switches tactics and tells me I should move out of the house since now she can't move with our son's arm broken, I said I am not going to move out she is the one who wants to end the marital relationship and start a new life. She reminds me a few months ago I had suggested I woud move into an apartment or something I simply stated I have changed my mind.
Keep in mind at this point I am super calm super detached, no sadness or anger or anything. I wasn't bawling like a baby at her vicious remarks. So then she tries somethign else she told me she liked me better when I was suicidal (a few weeks ago I admitted to her in the end of June when she was on one of her rampages I called the suicide hotline and they helped me not do somethign crazy).
I know I know "dont believe anythign she says and only 50% of what she does" but damned if that was messed up of her to say. 1. thinks I got our sons arm broken on purpose?????? 2. wishes I was suicidal still?
She continues on about her wanting to leave for a week, maybe she would go back home to illinois by herself she says even though a few days ago she said she wouldn't want to leave out son for that long. I said yeah right you mean florida. she says what's that supposed to mean, I told her that when I suggested she go to illinois to see her grandma without out son that was some type of impossbility. But now she can't wait to be gone for a week?
At this point I told her a few things: 1. I'm not moving out, I will continue to fix up the house and maybe we'll sell it when it's all done but I'm not leaving 2. I'm not moving out the bedroom if she wants to do that, that is her choice to make
