I am a long way from giving up I just do not have any idea how long she can walk away before she will never turn back she might be at this point already I just feel the longer she walks the further she will go and the less chance I will have of her coming back
Sorry to go on
Gary
Ghost - here's my advice to you: "Give Up". You have to find it in yourself to let go of this marriage so that you can stop looking at everything you do through the lens of what she is doing. We are ALL here because we made mistakes. None of us can go back and change the past. All we can do is learn from it and move forward. I believe that by trying to hold on to your marriage so tightly, it's causing you to not be able to change you. Your whole focus in all of your threads is on changing your wife's mind. The only way to do that is to change YOU. And I truly believe the only way to do THAT is to let go.
It's so incredibly hard to do. But that's my advice.
Edit to add that what I said ^^^ does not mean that you will never be happily married to her again. But I believe you have to treat your old marriage as a dead entity and what I wrote above is the only way for a new, better marriage to be reborn.
