From what I have been reading on these boards you are handling this the wrong way. You need to quit worrying about him. You need to take care of yourself. Go out with friends. Who cares if he is stuck watching the kids. Let him deal with it. Don't let him control you or the situation. You have to take charge of this and move on. It doesn't feel right, it against every instinct you have, but it is the only way. He will not come back to you while you are weak. You have to show him you are confident, having fun without him, and do not need him.
Me: 30's W: 30's M: 12yrs EA: Started 3/2015 MC Started: 4/2015 She moved out and served 6/2015 PA: Confirmed 10/5/2015 2 young kids
"If you do not stand for something you will fall for anything."