I have read the link on detachment I will re read it to try to understand further
I have now taken off my ring I think I was mainly keeping it on to remind me what I had lost and to channel my thought on keeping doing all the right things things that I should have done in the past but I realise I do not need a ring to do this.
She acts fine arround me to be honest. We get along well. We are not fighting she still cooks for me and I cook for her and our children she does my laundry and I do hers. I know he mindset and mine are at different points. I think she is happy that I am arround in the mornings to help with the breakfast and the school runs and it is nice for me to see the kids before they go off to school.
She wanted her own space which his fair enough so I have started to convert the home office into a downstairs bedrrom I guess the point I was making was during the M she felt I was not there for her enough I did not spend the quality of tie with her to make her feel special and when she dropped the B I flipped myself 180 and was trying to spend a lot of my time in her company and she felt I was crowding her so I now try to give her more space as this is what she asked for.
No she has not asked me to do more things with her she has not asked me to try to make her feal loved and cherished NOW this was what she wated during the M. Now she says do not worry about me you need to be there for the kids become w better father.
I know I have to detach I will re read the thread on detaching but it is just so hard to let go on a relationship of 25 years
Day to day I honestly do not know how I am going to cope with us not being an us
Having the support from here is keeping me going Thank you
Gary
Me:48 W 41 M:18 T:26 2 D 18 & 4 2 S 17 & 13 Bomb: 20/7/2015 in house separation D filed 06/17 Separate houses 10/17 D Final 29/12//17.
