Mahhhty...my wife said she left b/c I don't respect her, we were late on the house payments and inconsistent money flow (business is bad)But I got a Job. Drinking but I stopped. I was mean when we argued. Now it could be anything I say.
Since they have left I have been trying to tell my 9 year Son Daddy's fixing things in which my wife said she needed. get a job that pays consistently, Stop drinking, and respect her. I have done the first 2 and working on showing the respect, but she seems like she is bitter and angry causing issue to fight. She says she loves me but it hurts to be with me and it's over. We will be going to counseling that I have to schedule. She said she's not going to lift a finger b/c it's up to me cause she did everything before and I didn't go with it. She says it's over and that she doesn't want to try no matter what. It's been a week and several day since they left, but I saw them when i got back from training and its was hard. She keep saying we are never going to be together again ever. She tell me to stop giving my 9 year old false hope. He calls me telling me he misses me and to call back if he leaves a message. It kills me and I cannot not call him back to comfort him.
I don't know how to detach from wife when I need to comfort my boys. It hurts so much to hear her tell me it's over and there is no chance at all of us being together. Hurts more when kids want to come home and she says they are better where they are at. I don't understand how she can be so cold and not feel their pain.
help me understand and get through this please. i'm really a good man and wonderful father who still loves and cares for family so much. Thank You.
