You know the answer. You simply are hoping he changes so you don't have to. You're terrified of taking responsibility for your situation and are hoping that you can substitute putting up with abuse for taking charge of your life. Doesn't work that way hon.
He isn't going to change if you don't. The answer is to step up so you'll be ok with or without him.
If you change to that point then maybe he'll change too, and maybe something will work out in the future...but that is a big if. And, more to the point, it won't save you from doing the work now because if you don't you'll never give that a chance of happening.
So again, if I absolutely guaranteed he'd never change...what would you do?
NOW DO IT.
Last edited by Zues126; 07/28/1504:16 AM.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
