Well ww never listened to me about not having om around our sons and did it frequently anyway without telling me. Found out tonite our youngest saw them kissing this weekend and asked me about it because she only introduced him as her friend.
I told my sons the truth and that I wouldn't lie to them. Told them her is her boyfriend and that she started seeing him while we were married and that was wrong. I told them that is one of the biggest reasons why we won't be married anymore and that you don't do that to someone you care about. Lying and cheating is wrong.
That said I told them that was something between mommy and I and I wouldn't talk bad about her to them because she is still a great mom to them and loves them and we both can agree on that.
Bashing her and blaming her in front of them serves no purpose. I only see it backfiring on me.
I called ww and let her know of the convo and that I hated the fact that I felt pushed into a corner. Told her I was disappointed she didn't seem to care of my concerns and continued to do what she wanted, regardless of what could happen.
Unfortunately this has reached so far that if there was ever a chance to reconcile, I would be crazy to consider it. I have made so much progress and continue to be a better person than I ever was when we were together. I can't and won't go back to that and she only continues to regress, thinking she is actually moving forward.
I'm surprisingly not as hurt by all of this and feel ready to move on and leave her behind. The wife I loved is dead and I'm just about done mourning the loss.
What's left is a cold person I have nothing in common with and little to no interest to get to know.
M-33 W-33 S-11, S-8 M-11, T-14 BD - 12/26, Divorce Filing and admits to affair (her) 4/18 I moved out 5/23