You're right, a lot of this is about external validation. She felt unattractive and unappreciated and downright hated (by my parents). OM offered her that validation. She feels rejected by OM because he went back to his wife (I never tire of hearing that one ), and she feels rejected by me because I'm starting to lose patience with her and move on. Just a constant wallowing in victimhood.
Today I came home feeling on top of the world. I was really productive, got some flirtation at work from a really cute girl who had to be all of 22 (too young for me, but still felt good), had a good MC session today, just felt good all around.
Within 10 minutes I got treated to a rant about how sexually unhealthy she feels. She blamed me, my parents, her overly religious mother, religion in general, her gay first boyfriend, and society's pressure for women to be "pure" before marriage. She's actually angry that she didn't sleep around more before she got married (I was #3 for her). I just told her if she wanted to make up for lost time, then there's the door.
I'm sick of this s***
Despite her issues, she's a great mom, so I don't worry about my kids in that sense. I guess I'm more afraid of being seen (especially by my Ds) as the bad guy, the one who broke up our family. I'm not that concerned about what my W does after me...it's her life, I'll have my own life too.
Hopefully someday she'll wake up from this victimhood thing she's on and figure out what she had with me....Whether I'm an option any more at that point, well, that's just the risk she takes.
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Ex Rzrback Me 43 Her 44 D11, D15 T21, M19 BD 9/9/2014 Piecing
Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands - Clint Eastwood
), and she feels rejected by me because I'm starting to lose patience with her and move on. Just a constant wallowing in victimhood.