Hi HaWho, I don't have an answer to your question, but I just wanted to say that I felt you did well in your convo with your H. And what a convo it was! Thanks for posting; it does provide illumination into the mind of a MLCer. It isn't pretty in there just now..

I think you did well to just call H out on one or two key things and listen to the rest. Plus I think it is good that he is sharing some of this with you. Even if it does make your hair curl. As you say, he may well wreak havoc yet, and that is why it is important to treat him with due caution and keep your protective boundaries/measures in place. He is not your friend or your H just now....a bit like having to share a car journey with an irritated rattlesnake perhaps. Due caution needed, but you'll get to the other side...

Hang on in there - I think you're doing well xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus