I'm glad you found the site. Cali is 100% right and I think the other vets here will tell you the same thing over and over and you will resist it over and over because it just feels so "wrong". As Cali said, however, you need to recognize the fear and the urgency for what they are, step back and take the long view. NOTHING YOU DO IN THE NEXT TWO WEEKS WILL REVERSE HER COURSE OF ACTION -- NOTHING. Really all you can do is either (1) make things worse or (2) not make things any worse than they already are.
Instead of shooting for reconciliation as your target, or "getting her back", for now set your sights only on stabilizing things and not making them worse. Don't push her to take the next step away from you emotionally by continuing to chase her.
Don't convince yourself that it's okay to pursue her because your intentions are good, or it will open her eyes, or she needs to hear it, or she needs an apology, or etc. etc. etc. This is all just you convincing yourself its okay to do what you want to do versus doing what is best for your situation.
Keep reading, keep contributing. No matter what happens I promise that you will be fine in the long run -- better than fine.
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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
