(I would respond to her with "Look, this is NOT what I wanted, or a place I ever dreamed we'd end up. But I realize now that I'll be okay regardless of what happens, and I'm trying to use this time to work on some things for myself and those have been good for me, and are helping my outlook."
Or something similar.
Starsky)
Thanks for telling me now! why couldn't you have channeled my mind and taken over like professor x? then i could have said the right thing!
all i said was, "I can only be who I am now. I cannot change the past, but I can be who I want to be going forward."
pfft!
Well that's a pretty good answer too! And good job at the mediator's, under trying circumstances. You're doing well!!
