Huge Backslide After Affair Recovery

[Clairee]

^^^this!! Hope listen to Cali. Get out of your Hs head. That's like driving around in a foreign country with every sign written in a language you don't speak, with a GPS that's stuck 2 countries away. You just drive haplessly turning here & there, staying perpetually lost. Take the exit you've been given(DB) & get off the H brain highway! Sweetie, you could be Mother Teresa, Martha Stewart & Jenna Jameson rolled into one & it wouldn't matter right now. Your H is stuck in his own time warp. You can't argue, beg, bed, reason or accuse him out of it. Quit mind reading. You don't have the translator for it. Better yourself, for you. Yes my H felt all of those things I said. But that doesn't mean I focus solely on him. I have my own issues to work through at the same time. I have to have my own life, my own individuality, my own identity, my own happiness. You are hinging your happiness on him. If he would do XYZ, I'd be happy. It doesn't work that way. He's not responsible for your happiness, you aren't responsible for his. Self happiness enhances the happiness of the couple, Youve seen it said here a million times, be the woman only a fool would leave.

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