Ur, I thought he was alluding to you being the 'monkey' ? I may have to re-think my previous answer
I can tell a similar story to yours regarding the OM. I don't really recall a time being jealous of him. I knew what I had was real. I also knew that he would never have what my ex and I shared. Just isn't possible. The harder part was seeing how she twisted things into knots trying to work it out for herself and being too close to the tornado. i.e. not letting go.
That was a hard lesson, but a very valuable one. Cali, you get the opportunity to see 'behind the curtain' and see that it wasn't all sunshine and roses as depicted on FB. I suspect that helps a bit...
AJ
Yeah .. like I said .. there was a time ... I shared this with W ... when I felt like someone I never knew/met just beat me and that really irked the heck out of me. Now, ... meh .. I do not give him much thought ... other than the fact he has made my wife ill ... again .. not like she was taken against her will, she made a choice that we both now will have to live with the rest of our lives ... something she is struggling with currently.
The 'behind the curtain' comment is very spot on ... I still have trouble wrapping my head around how she went that far with it all ... but again .. not for me to really figure out .. what is done is done.
