I have followed along on your sitch and you always receive the best advice. I realize you are in a difficult place and it sounds like you know what you need to do.
Can I chime in on one thing about what I see regarding your w? I'm no expert in cheating and I can't relate to her feeling of wanting to "feel" that rush of new love. However, from all of your posts where you reference W, I do see someone who is seeking external validation-not just necessarily "new love endorphins". The problem with that (and I do consider myself an expert in that feeling of constantly seeking affirmation of my worth sadly enough) is that it is literally like being on a roller coaster with no lap bar or overhead restraints. I don't know if your w really sees it as "you giving up" when you say you need to move out, but rather "you" may not want her anymore. And if OM rejected her along with her own H, then that leaves her reeling. It perpetuates her feeling of being "too old to find someone" and "wasting her best years" on you which is complete horse caca!!! You cannot fix that feeling. Ever!!!! Only she can.
However, it is probably best to let her feel it fully and live your life. I know you are worried about your kids. That truly $uck$. What are you really worried about happening if you move out? W hooks up with OM? He is an actual toolbox but that's on him. W hooks up with many men? You can't control any of that.
Hang in there. You will get through this!!!:)
Last edited by Georgiabelle; 07/27/1504:05 PM.
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
