Validating is different Dwh, validating would be saying "yes I can see you have an issue with where you live, I know you are resourceful so will work it out, let me know your new address"

It isn't saying " please come live here" nor is it saying "serves you right"

Validating is saying "I hear there are difficulties with OM and that's hard for you, I have decided that's your business to resolve which I know you will"

It isn't saying " come home and I will always be here for you" nor "are you learning anything?"

Validating is saying " yes, your life is really hard, unless it affects the kids then it's best you work through in your usual methodical way please it keep me informed if you want to meet the kids elsewhere"

It isn't saying "poor WW what can I do to help?" Or "OM is a scumbag shall I get the boys to work him over?"

You most likely know this. And I wanted to be clear in my own thoughts.
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Last edited by Vanilla; 07/27/15 02:52 PM.
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