I did something I know people will probably not agree with. I have seen messages that my wife had with her EA and they are making plans. I have seen quote pins on pintrest that lead me to believe this as well. I talked to a female friend of ours that knows us both yesterday. I told her that I was doing 180 and she agreed that was okay to do but that I still needed to let my wife know that I cared. Not that I would be around forever but just an occasional small not or gesture to let her know. I decided to text her last night and say. I know I have made mistakes. I don't know how to be right now. All I know is that I miss you terribly and if there is any chance for us I want to take it. If she says No then fine. I believe she is gonna go to her mom's house 500 miles away but in the same town as her EA. He lives in a camper behind his mom's house so I don't know if that would be where she would live. She will be leaving not just me but md 17D who still lives with us and our 26D who will be getting married in less than a year. 26D will not talk to her and of course wife blames me. My 17D is furious with her but puts up with her because they have to live together. But if she leaves it isn't going to be good. But at this point my wife isn't concerned about the kids just herself. I saw a message that she told him she comes with 2 daughters that are not always very nice. He says, yeah i see that and they hate me. My wife says... So. That is just crazy. They were her world before her dad died. She will be back but the question will be will I still be here for her or moved on. I don't know. I just know I love her very much and dont want to lose her but i know i can't stop her.