Hi Jim. I get how your feeling and being positive when you don't feel it is soooo hard. It's clear from your postings that your a great dad and how much you love your kids This does not help with hand overs and of course you get defensive when you perceive a form of attack
No one can be in your shoes or know exactly how your feeling at each moment but I think the trick is to stay on an even keel. If W attacks , listen , process your thoughts and answer in a non committal way. My fav with EXW is ' no prob ' and I smile She cannot come back at me because if she does she is the one dragging out the argument / strained convo
Again , I can't imagine the heart break at handing over a couple of angels to a person that has caused them pain but it is what it is and your only way to the end of this is through it
On the new life your W has , I would doubt all is rosy in the garden No relationship goes perfectly smooth Theirs is built on lies and will not be harmonious all the time or anywhere near it
My L/C deals only in facts and will not entertain conjecture While she will agree conjecture can be proved right sometimes, why would you bother giving it headspace ? What ever the state of W and her life , it will play out as it will. Jim is a good guy and deserves better than this and time will provide so much more. If you need to speculate about anything , try picturing Jim happy , in a loving , committed R with someone very special , whoever that might be. It will happen Jim.
You have your health , two fantastic kids and great life ahead of you. You been setback at the moment Jim but you will get through this
Thanks for the continued support on my thread
Ps. Red Bulls at the side and the speed blocks along the sides at the bottom with a yellow R1 on the back of the lid ! !!!
