Need advice for a WW who left

[dwh15]

Thank You so much V for the links. I have been validating WW at every opportunity, but unfortunately I don't seem to get many. My best shot was a few days ago when she was having trouble with OM and really opened up, and got into our own R a little. I validated almost every sentence out of her mouth. She was saying things like "I deserve to be loved". Me: "Yes you do". Her: "I'm not settling anymore in a relationship." Me: "No, you shouldn't have to." But those types of situations don't come up very often, and I'm not sure I want the time I'm doing it to be when she's had a fight with OM. I already decided next time that happens I need to stay out of it let her figure it out without any help from me.

On my daily GAL activity, I took the kids and spent the day with my sister-in-law (WW's sister). Kids went swimming and we had a great spread of BBQ food. Talked with the in-laws for quite a while. They were asking me for updates, as they don't hear from WW at all anymore. Pretty sad, considering how close she used to be to her sisters. I think that maybe WW feels judged by everyone who used to be in her life and has pulled away almost completely. She has surrounded herself with "new" friends. Her family all really likes me and is hoping we can somehow patch things up. I promised to keep in touch and keep my kids involved in their lives, especially since my W seems to have no interest in doing so right now. So it was a good day overall, and I'm in pretty good spirits, getting ready to settle in for the night. Quite a change from yesterday. Hoping to take the kids to a zoo later this week, and maybe do some putt-putt golf on a different day. My GAL activities have to be centered around the kids, since they are with me 95% of the time, but that's OK by me. It's family GAL time. I did text WW a pic of the younger boys playing in the pool and got a quick reply saying Glad they having fun and send everyone my love. Hoping for more positive days ahead.