LBS trying to get it right

[ATPeace]

My days at the moment are all the very same

On a school day

Wake up 7 am do some house work put on a load of washing
Get kids up and ready for school
I go off to work
Get home about 4pm
Take S to tennis
Get home 7.30 to 8.30 depending on his session
Have something yo eat
Talk to W
Perhaps watch some TV with or with out W
Then Bed. ......Was and is not much of a life

Ready for the next day where it all starts again like a scan from Groundhog Day

Now we are on summer holidays and S is not doing his tennis
So evenings we are arround together from 4 pm So I have been trying yo do more with my children from 4 pm taking them to park taking baby out for a walk going with my Eldest D to her horse

So my question is if I am trying to detach from W ....Do I do more things for myself in the evenings ...

Looking back on my M and what has been happening over the past year or so I have been doing this I have been playing tennis on a Tuesday and Thursday night and was not spending time with my W .....I was putting myself first

I guess she feels that I have been detaching from her by not spending time with her

She has been feeling lonely

Now I am being told to GAL and to Detach but is this not exactly what I was doing too get to this situation over the last year or so.

I am struggling to see how going back to what I was doing before is going to make this any better or am I missing something

I am confused

Please can anyone advise me

Many thanks

Gary