Hello

[714Dad]

also, when i picked up my girls on friday morning my wife was still there, still in her pjs. i was dressed per the usual now, button up casual shirt or polo, etc. hair combed.

when we left i resisted saying anything and as the door was closing she said, "have a good day" like she used to. i instinctively and with enthusiasm said, "you too" giving her a small smile as the door closed.

it's something, however small. whether instinctual or not, it was a positive and a nice thing to say. again, i didn't dwell or overreact, i just smiled and let the door close.

then when dropping them off last night at 8pm I went in and she asked what they did, so i was upbeat and gave a brief rundown saying, "they had a lot of fun today, we went to (friends) pancake breakfast party, they bounced in the bouncehouse and played. then we came home at 2pm and they played the dance game for a while, then we went to (cousin's) house and they got to swim and play with C and E... Then we came here."

my wife didn't say much other than, an "okay" or something, but it was another in the list of positive and optimistic discussions/conversations (if you could call it that).

I gave my girls big long hugs and then walked out and closed the door.

then came home to the divorce packet.

any thoughts, ideas, suggestions... anyone?