I totally get the "let it run it's course" approach and am doing so by going dark plus working on me is a given as I am actively GAL. How things ultimately turn out is unknown and either way I will be fine due to DB'ing.
You also answered my question and it was staring me in the face really, if what the WW says can't be trusted then how can the grown up kids or other relatives form an opinion if they are basing it on what the WW is saying, which of course they largely will be.
My grownup kids are making me feel a little confused though as they are saying (one of them hasn't spoken to my W, his mum, since she left the house to be with the OM) that by not completely giving up on my M, because they say I should, I am choosing my W (who has made their life hell too) over them, which is difficult to deal with.
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
