I would validated like the best of them, and deflect a lot. If WW main complaint was neglect that won't help you. If neglect has invalidated you will need the magic 5:1 ratio, five validation to every invalidations. I did post how to kill your marriage, a sort of reverse invalidation post. Do check out validation cheat sheet by Wonka. Pure magic.
There is a thread on going dark somewhere. I will see if I can find it for you. It's one of Sandis I think.
Found it, but the link icon sometimes doesn't work on this iPad, apologies if it times out whilst I do it:
