4mykid, Zues has given you something solid to think about. Take it to heart.
Like mustard, what I picked up on is that you are operating from a place of fear. I did, too, for a long time. Fear of financial implications, fear of social backlash, fear my children's lives would be ruined. Fear I wasn't good enough, attractive enough, savvy enough to be on my own. But when I looked at each of those and faced them, I realized they weren't completely true. Someone smart made be verbalize exactly what I thought was going to happen, and in the end it was all something I could handle. Some of the fears had some truth, my social world has changed, but in a good way quite frankly. Some of them were bunk to start with, I've always been attractive even though I'm not built like Kate Moss. Point is, 4, identify those fears, face them. I think you'll find dealing with them is less frightening than not.
