Your WH and WW are in an A. Both of them are cheaters OW is a WW, a scuzzy WW. All WP lie to themselves, their family's and their LBS.
Most of these As don't last, it is very hard to make this sort of R work. OWs come in different flavours, I once took a sample of posters here and identified for myself lots of different types of OW. Sad huh?
The one thing they all have in common (as long as they know they are an OW) is complete lack of morality, especially the married ones. Eventually despite all the OW and WH A will last up to 2 years. Both have scrambled eggs for brains, let it burn I tself out. Both will be angry and unhappy that is a deep disatisfaction with themselves and this is not about you.
I would say don't trouble your head over it, as far as you think you have an handle it will change. I know it is hurtful and baffling too. But these two are addicts, just as addicted to their A as they would be to any substance. addicts will do everything and anything to use their substance. I was married to a gambler and it's similar....
Truth will out, always does it's inevitable, the lies they tell will not be sustainable in the long run.
Your friend sounds very safe and quite wonderful, all of us need a safe person who will just let us be. It is so important.
You will get through this, I know you feel isolated at the moment because OW seems a little SWF (single White Female) acquiring your life, you are your children's mum and always will be. The stronger you become, the more you follow Sandi guidelines the better for you. This process is for you, so you become someone only a fool would leave.
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Last edited by Vanilla; 07/26/1503:06 PM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
