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[little1]

One of the things I found out today is that the OW told FIL she doesn't know why my children don't like her and won't give her a chance. I love the victim mentality. My DD15 was the only one that supported them in the beginning until the OW's true colors started showing and then she turned. She won't even admit this is an affair.

1. Do all OW's play the victim?
2. Do they EVER admit or feel guilt about their part in this?
3. Are they all this controlling?
4. How can they be so happy and proud of themselves with the wake of damage that follows?
5. does any of the damage caused ever catch up to them?

I have seen emails and messages between the two of them. She goes off the handle about everything. His work schedule changing, he and I talking, the kids, money he gives the kids, everything. As far as she is concerned me and my children can drop off the face of the earth and then and only then would she be happy. And then to tell that to my FIL? She has been caught in so many lies that it is unreal and she still wonders why my children dont want anything to do with her.

I know not to fixate on her and him. I just thought maybe if I could journal it here, when I think about this I can find it easier instead of going through all my written journals.