Shotgun, just finished reading through your thread. I can only imagine how difficult it would be to go through cancer, as a few on this board have survived, much less a WAS also. Hope things continue to improve with your recovery.

I understand you have an IC that is helping you, thats a great asset to have. My IC has helped me in so many ways during this year.

Its obvious your W is working through some issues and has problems of her own, the money part seems to hit a nerve with her. Forgetting about her for now, you haven't talked much about what may have been some of your issues. You stated your W began to state all of your shortcomings and that you put your needs in front of her when talking about dividing assets. Many times they rewrite history in order to justify their actions(I'm sure leaving someone going through cancer would need alot of rewriting) but there are often grains of truth within the spew that can help us become the best version of ourselves we can. It may be good to think through those things and see if there is anything you can pull out. We cant do anything about them changing but we might as well take what we can from this experience to grow.

Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be