LBS trying to get it right

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I do realise I cannot fix her only she can do that

Do you ACTUALLY realize that? Are you showing it through your actions? Your W is upset about a FB post and you try to fix it. Your W wants the garage done she can move and you try to fix it. There is no amount of nice that you can be that will change her mind.

I have been looking for local clubs today trying to find ways to GAL

Home and the kids takes up a sizeable amount of my life right now but I am looking to get out a couple of evenings a week

So what have you DONE? Without reading back through all of your threads, all I remember is some hypotheticals. From what I can tell, your W is getting out plenty. Do you enjoy being her babysitter?

The stupid thing is that we both get on very well we do things in the house for each other it is almost like our R is there except for the Intimacy.

I'll bet most here feel the same way. And that friendship IS important. But you've got to back off of it some.

She is going out more with her friends and is not putting me first .....this is not something that she did when we were M as I was jealous and I guess she wanted to please me by not going out clubbing

So why are you still putting HER first?

I am just going to keep trying to distance myself but living together does make this rather difficult

Neither way is easy. If she's with you, she can see changes more readily. But if you don't CHANGE.........

In some ways I would like for her to experience living without me so she can really see if this is what she wants.

Yes. Yes. Yes. That doesn't mean you have to leave. But you have to stop trying to be her husband. You have to let her live her own life. Experience her own problems.



Sorry, I really don't mean to come across harsh. But I want you to look at your first posts here a few weeks ago and this one. What exactly is different?