Thanks Zeus!! I am so glad U are so straight forward that is what I need! You are right I have been to lazy and unwilling to change! I'm scared of change And scared of losing everything! You are right that is exactly the pattern and he does call me craZy! I need to accept that I can create my own happiness! I think I am overwhelmed by taking on all those fears at one time! So Let's start with one! I will look back and decide today what one I should focus on! The big picture is emotional independence but I need to work towards that baby steps! I have thought many times why do I keep going back? I have people tell me I am the only person who will put up with him! They are right I deserve respect and that is not what I am getting! I am just plain scared of what life will be like making all these changes! Will he grow up and follow me? What if he doesn't?! I am just scared to death! I will look and think deep into what I can do to change these behaviors! Thanks again zeus
