A new thread - My W's OW, the Predator

[Zues126]

OW didn't really do anything wrong or inappropriate...once you accept the premise that M's can be dissolved when they are inconvenient, that feelings and selfishness are a good compass to steer your life by, and that family can be redefined arbitrarily and everyone is resilient.

This is what grows in a garden with no foundation of commitment, character, and without putting God ahead of personal selfishness.

Yes, Dif, I'm not surprised, I'm not even angered, but it's painful to see people choose to deface the purity of a real committed relationship.

The hard part is that it doesn't always come around. This isn't a Disney movie. You keep thinking you're the 'good guy' and that because of that you'll win in the end. Look- life isn't fair. The reality is that you may never R. WW and OW may end up together...and they may even both learn from this experience and end up having a good relationship. They both might grow and change and mature, but only a few years too late for you to save your M. And there might not be a hell they burn in because of their sins or lack of faith.

So, putting aside what they're doing for a minute- can you accept that reality? I think before you can detach and start moving forward you have to, because it still seems to me you are waiting around for WW. As I've said...you can't expect her to have the strength to let go of OW if you can't muster the strength to let go of WW.