A new thread - My W's OW, the Predator

[DifRent]

The W and I were at the OW's house the night that first email was sent for her "inspirational video club." (Wasn't very inspiring, I have to say.) I had dropped my W off early as I had a board meeting to attend, and I came back a little later. I guess while I was gone, they talked about... things. Now that I think about it, my W did seem a bit distracted on the drive home.

So the next morning, this email hit the inbox:
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We were meant to meet! No matter what does or doesn’t happen in the future, I feel like we have triggered positive things in each other. Only you can say what those positive things are for you, but from where I sit, you are asking yourself important questions that maybe weren’t consciously weighing on you as much as they are now. (I love how she says "only you can say what those 'positive' things are," then tells her what those things are.)

I know it is confusing and definitely throwing you off your confident feet, but this is good! You are at a crossroads and you can’t go backward. The future will be different now…either a renewed relationship with Dif or letting that go. Either way, awesome E is asking E more fervently what awesome life she wants going forward: what to let go of, what to change and what to add.

For me? I feel rejuvenated! I have been coming out of a valley of darkness and more consciously creating my new life – not defined by my role as Mother, partner, caregiver, breadwinner. I was already feeling good about the changes I was making and the people I was attracting into my life, but NOW, I feel energized to step up my game! I am capable of more! I was starting to grow older instead of grow younger, and I believe it is a choice! And that someone as wonderful as you shows any interest in me makes me believe anything is possible!

So here is what I think. We each are feeling tapped on the shoulder by the universe to wake up and even more consciously create our lives. Your focus may be related to your life with Dif and the boys. My focus is to get healthier so I can experience new people, places and adventures…and find a new home. So individually, we each have a focus that was maybe spotlighted by meeting each other, but actually isn’t about the other. Make any decisions about Dif without me in a possible future relationship. And I need to get healthier with dreams of adventures without your sharing them with me the reason I am getting healthier.

There is no time frame, E.
If we never meet again, you have already blessed me!
If we become dear friends, my life will be richer.
If we become lovers at some point, it will be rooted in a love that has been patient and kind.

And so, thank you for your courage last night! We both know each other’s feelings, but the present moment is about friendship. I am able to focus on that and not let things be awkward. I hope you are too!

We rock as women! Get ready for a fun weekend painting my deck!
OW
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("No time frame, take your time... well, a few weeks, maybe. We'll talk again after the camping trip...") Lord have mercy...