It is a genetic and relational issue, little. In most cases family side with family, also you don't know the stories WH has told, there will be a spin. Remember the 100% rule in Sandi guidelines? Believe nothing WH says whilst he is in an A and only 50% of what he does.
You may be surprised family may not be condoning but tolerating.
My WH family haven't communicated at all and recently one member of the family told me whilst they support WH and his new R, they are unhappy about it. But they accept it and hope my life turns out well. We have no children. I did not know WH had a 'new' R.
You are the gateway to their grandchildren etc so I suspect things will unfold in time.
Relax, breathe, you are amoung friends here.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW