LBS trying to get it right

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How do people keep things together I am so emotional right now but am trying not to show it

Need to find things to do to take my mind off situation

Time, GAL, hurt yourself enough. You will eventually learn the hard way letting out those emotions to W does nothing to help you.

So a question if I detach from W will she not just think I have given up on our R

We all have this fear and it [censored] to work through. No, she wont think you have given up, she will see you are moving forward with your life with or without her. She was the one to walk away, not you. You don't give up on someone that fired you. It just doesn't work that way. You not accepting that its over right now is showing you as being weak. Its like you getting fired from your job and then worrying that if you dont go in to do a shift still each day YOU are giving up on the company. You.were.fired.

I am trying to get things right but seem to be getting things wrong. my sister posted some warming comments on my facebook page but my W thought they were a dig at her I told her my sister just cared about me and I have removed them as I do not want to cause upset to W

I am a fixer kind of person and I like to fix things in R I did not like sleeping on problems and would always try to make things right if we had argued.

You don't need to fix this. You are not responsible for your sister or your W's actions. If you sister posts something and it bothers W, why do you feel the need to step in and fix it? Codependency. You could have just said you don't control what your sister does and leave it at that. If W is bothered she can speak to sister.

Please can someone guide me What are my next steps

GAL AND DETACH ?

Yes. You need to get away from these desperate actions. I'm going to be honest here with you. As long as you keep showing this needy desperate man who will do anything to get his W back, she will continue to leave further and lose respect for you. What your doing is not attractive, its not helping you. Every single time you have a R talk with her, even if she initiates it and you get desperate, she is seeing her choice to leave you was the right one. You need to back off and accept your M is dead for right now. You may get the chance to rebuild it, but only if you start following the rules. This is going to be a long hard road and you need alot of work to save yourself first. Forget your W for now.