You ML Sunday?? so you are nonverbally letting him know its ok to have OW on the side and you on the other? Stop doing that ... like yesterday.
start pulling back and letting your H really FEEL what life will be like without you.
PS- Cali- I agree with 100% of what you wrote. 100%.
My only concern is that 4my needs a 911 dose of detachment. How WAH interprets ML, how he feels about life without her, frankly...I don't know she's in a place where she should even worry about that, because she's already too hung up on that and I think she'd end up continuing to try to control how WAH feels, what he does, etc.
For that reason I say don't sweat the dynamics of the dance just yet, and just put your focus on you, your 180s, GAL, and detachment.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
