A new thread - My W's OW, the Predator

[DifRent]

Hey Cali... I am the better option. I am. I know. Thank you for reminding me.

She called me twice today while I was at work and couldn't take the calls anyway... once in the morning, once in the afternoon. So interesting... last week, she ignored my texts. This week, I'm ignoring her calls. She was at the house today working in our office and probably is wondering why I've not been around - it's clear I haven't if she sees the sheets haven't been put on my (our) bed, the wine she bought last week hasn't been touched, the Vitamix is missing... she left no messages today, but I think she was alone, curious, and I don't know... are the seeds growing? Was she missing my being there like I used to be?

I'm really wondering how things will be once she moves out in a few weeks. Will she miss me? Call me? Care at all?

The thing is... it's not like me not to respond to texts or calls - does it seem like I'm game playing or employing some kind of strategy if I don't respond? Or that I'm too pissed to talk to her? Or what? I am happy to let her pursue, but I also don't want to go too far in the other direction. Would love for her to ruminate all weekend (during which she all kinds of amazing and fun plans), but I don't want to make matters worse. Thinking of texting that I'm super busy tomorrow, maybe we can catch up later.

As for me, I'm moving in the right direction... I think. I did find some more emails this week - absolutely by accident when looking for something else! And boy, they paint the perfect picture of a predator. (I'll share them next week.) I know I'm not supposed to be dwelling on her, but again, if I understand how all this began in the first place, it actually helps with my PMA. I can clearly see how this woman planted her own tainted seeds, and while it's tragic that my W fell for it, the story she tells about us is just a myth.

Enjoying my last night here at my friend's house with a gin and tonic and some mindless television. No real GAL plans this weekend, so I need to come up with some. But wondering if anyone has any thoughts about responding to her one way or another?

Hope you're all doing well!