Signing the Big D - What to do Next?

[Vanilla]

Pink

I have kept quiet until I considered what I wanted to say and I am sure others are going to disagree with me.

Your XWH sacked you as his wife, and yes I understand he is the father of your boys. He is not your WH any longer, he decided his route. I do not think it's your job to rescue xWH. The best you can do is point him to resources.

Sweetness, xWH is in a cheese less tunnel of his own making, point him to resources sure but it's his OPs job to help him. He needs help if he hits rock bottom, of course he does.

Pink, I do not think you can get xWH back to what he was, that is his job for himself with professional help. If you consult IC can you talk this through as it worries me for you to try this or even think of it? Does Pink want to be xWH nurse or his W?

You can still stand for you and the principles of your M. There is nothing in your xWH which indicates he wants to piece and is remorseful. Whatever you decide Pink you have my support as always.

You are a kind and generous soul and I think you should concentrate on yourself and your boys in this. They come first and will need all your energy if what you suspect is true.

Emphasise with xWH yes, sympathise possibly, intercede if necessary to get him help, bail or nurse him please reconsider. There is the possibility that this can go badly and then Pink could be hurt in one way or another.

Hugs

V