Need advice for a WW who left

[dwh15]

Frankly I think this crazy loco of WW behaviour is good for you to observe, I am sorry if that sounds cruel, it isn't meant to be, like all sitches I wish it were different and there was less pain for you.
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It doesn't sound cruel, but how does it help me? Yes, I can see that she is clearly not acting like a sane person, but doesn't change my feelings.

And since it suits you then you can go brinkman on starting filing for April 2017 (filing six months earlier; that makes it more or less late October 2016), that's a long time in DB.

What does it mean to "go brinkman"? I don't plan on waiting all the way until Oct 2016. Don't wanna cut it that close to the 20-year mark and honestly not sure if I have it in me to drag it out that long. Plus, I don't see WW waiting that long to file herself if I continue not giving her any support at all. Right now, I'm thinking my personal deadline is around March 2016 to file. That will be a year since the first BD. If I haven't seen any changes in my sitch by then, I don't think I will want to continue waiting.

Regarding the Petrol, yes I get what you mean. It was a moment of weakness on my part. I saw her hurting and wanted to help however I could. She asked for the money, but I should have said I couldn't afford it, or wasn't comfortable giving it to her. Lesson learned.