I think I need this epiphany. I can see how it would be helpful. I do see this logically in my situation... but to get to the point where I let go of my perceived control is a difficult step. I was never a jealous person before the A... but now I look at any new fb friends that H adds & question what the motives are behind that add. It is totally not who I have ever been ... and not who I want to be... but tells me I still need to heal from the A, I suppose.
I've read up on your last 3 threads & I am glad to read about all the progress you both have made. I admire your strength in going through such a tough and long journey!
Hope I have read yours a bit .. and posted. Thing is you are real fresh with the A and all that, it takes time ... and know this .. those emotions all cycle in waves, intensity, durations .. its not fun and by far one of the hardest things I think a person can go through. I thought I was done with it till I had to revisit all that stuff as we continue to work thigns out ... it does get better ... do not beat yourself up for being upset as you are still in the thick of it.
My last 3 threads ...ughhh... I have a ton ...lol but honestly in your case those threads were after my W dropped the A with NC of OM, went full transparency and completely committed to working on the M. I am not sure you are there yet.
